It’s All about Love

I had someone recently try to convince me in a round about way to return to an organization I was once part of.    The reasoning was that there are people there that still care about me.

I am well aware of that-they are the same people who cared about me while I was there.  But as most married people will tell you, “love is not enough.”   It does not matter how many people care if the organization itself is flawed in policies or the way it shows love.  When the organization has been told repeatedly that there are problems and does nothing about them, then love is not enough.

I was not and am not the only person that was or is unhappy there either.  There are many people there who are also unhappy, which should give that organization something to think about.  Why are there so many different people/personalities there who are not happy?  Perhaps it is because love is not enough.



Learning Styles

I have heard much about learning styles over the years, but have had a hard time discerning which one or ones my blessing is.  I heard a most interesting talk from someone who does this and learned a bit more about it.

I knew the basics of auditory, visual, kinesthetic (hands on learners).  I did not know that these were divided further-for instance one can be an auditory verbal or auditory listening.  One can be visual print or visual picture. Kinesthetic can be hands on, whole body, sketching or writing.  And one can be one learning style for one subject, and a different style for other subjects.

It is fascinating to me and I plan to study this a bit more this summer. Learning styles are not just for children or students.  Many people can learn about themselves and those close to them by figuring out learning styles.

We All Need to Stick Together

I was told this by a well meaning, sweet individual.  I understand the point that was made, but this statement is not true.  There are many times when people of faith did not stick together and the Bible has numerous stories of this.

In my situation, if we had all stuck together, I would not have had the ongoing challenge that I did.  People chose not to stick with me and I am sure some of them are wondering why I am doing or not doing certain things now.  Past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior and I still do not see changes from before so I will continue what I’ve been doing.

Get off the Bench

We had a testimony a while back about getting off the bench and participating in the game-in this case, in more congregational activities.  This week we had a different person use that phrase and urge us not to be pew sitters.

They have a point, but they also fail to realize that the culture of the place is not conducive to keeping people in the game.  People have gotten off the bench and into the game and ended up getting run over multiple times.    People have offered to help with activities and been told that help is no longer needed.   Lastly, they don’t want volunteers-they want clones.   When people have stepped in to fill a need all they got in return was grief as they were not doing things the exact same way the person that had the job before them did.

If they want people to get off the bench and stay in the game, they need to change the way people are treated.

Not Too Pleased

So far my challenging situation is not improving.  I just discovered that something I was told not to do,  is now being done.  All parties involved heard this restriction, but now someone else is doing it-and this someone else found it insulting when I was doing it.

For people who supposedly are interested in improving the situation, they are doing the opposite.  I wonder if they even know that the other person is doing this…but I can’t tell them without getting the outside person in trouble and I don’t want to do that.  But it angers me greatly: again showing that one set of rules apply to me and another to this other person.

Not pleased at all.

Divison and Confusion

This is my second post about this week’s topic, Satan. My first post (right below this one) showed how Satan has worked through time to bring destruction to Israel and the Jewish people.

This post will focus on how I have seen Satan hard at work in my own life. My congregation endured a split earlier this year. I wrote about it here, here, here, here and here.

It was painful and I can see that Satan got a hold of the elders and encouraged them to cause confusion and division. Even now, eight months later they are still speaking ill of us to other congregations in the area.

Satan is using them to spread falsehoods and lies about us, which fits right in his position as the “father of lies.” Lately someone in our own congregation seems to be affected by this as well. She stayed with us through the split, said she was hurt and disappointed by what the elders had done, yet now she seems to be pulling away from us.

She is good friends with one of the families who left and over the past few months there has been a change in her. She is (was?) our tambourine leader but even that has lost its appeal for her. We have some events coming up besides the Autumn Feast Days which she was asked to lead and her answer was quite telling, I think. She said she did not feel comfortable doing that.

It’s odd since she was the one that introduced tambourine to us. She was not asked to come up with any new routines either-just lead dances we already know. Why is she uncomfortable with that?

I was asked if I could lead tambourine for these two events, and I replied that I could. And neither I nor the person who asked me to lead want to see tambourine go by the wayside.

Her best friend (different from the other couple I mentioned before) heard that I was asked to lead and she said that she had thought about leading it, but did not feel comfortable with it. Obviously the tam leader had spoken with her before being approached by the committee. Then she said something else that leads me to believe that our (former?) leader is either stepping down or leaving us for good-she said that once you do something once, it’s yours. Now why would she say that if our tam leader is going to continue with tambourine?

The same committee person that asked me to lead told me to keep our leader informed about our practices because she still wants to participate. That is not true since we had our practice for this week’s event and the tam leader not only never showed up, but never informed she would not be there. In contrast, her best friend did tell me she would not be doing the tambourine dance.

I am disappointed that her best friend won’t be doing the dances and I’m not sure why she does not want to participate. I could understand if she felt that our tam leader was being ousted from her position, the way the elders wanted to oust our rabbi. That is not what happened here. The facts are that our leader was asked first to lead tambourine. She chose, voluntarily, not to do it. It was only after her refusal to lead that I was asked if I could do it. I did not suddenly run into the breach to fill the position-I was asked before I knew what was going on. After I was asked, my first thought was why wasn’t our regular leader doing it, but before I asked the question, the committee person told me why I was being asked.

I was asked at our practice if I was indeed the leader now. I told them I was informed that it was only for these two events coming up. I was asked if the original leader was stepping down. I replied truthfully that I don’t know. My personal feeling is that she is leaving us, but since no one knows that for sure, I could not say anything.

Do you see Satan at work here? I sure do. We have a lot of confusion right now as to why the leader is not leading, if she is staying, etc.. I also wonder about her best friend-will she stay if our tam leader goes?

I think one of the best prayers we can pray at this time in our lives is for protection from deception. I know someone who prays every day “Adonai, please don’t let me be deceived.”


As an aside, do you know what amein really means? It means “so be it”, or “let it be so”. When it comes to deception protection, I can think of no better way than to end in agreement that Adonai will keep me from being deceived.

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